??Negativity or Narcissism??
Have you ever known someone that is always a debbie downer? All the time? Just always talking down on others and/or always bigging themselves up. Always trying to say stuff trying just to get a rise out of others or putting themselves out there as if they think they are all the more better than everybody else? Is that a narcissist or just a plain ole negative person?
Being a narcissist has so few inner resources, that they look to others to validate their sense of self and have a need to be seen and heard by a audience to make them feel important. They need to be admired for their beauty, size, body -- attributes that usually fade with time. Unable to achieve satisfaction in the form of love & work, they will find that they have little to sustain them when youth passes them by. Hopelessly self absorbed without remorse and can't see the world from anyone else's perspective. Your grandiose superiority is part of your personality as unrealistic as it may be. What's that saying? "The bigger they are, they harder they fall?" And sooner or later you will have to eat a slice of that good old humble pie. Tearing others down may help you feel better for the time being but in the end only love and not the selfish kind can fix what's going on with you. There is so much value in being humble, if only you could see it. Negativity multiplies when focused on, and that which we focus on becomes greater, clear yourself of the negative thoughts by trying to find something positive in those around you. If the people around you are negative then change the people that you are around. Laugh and be joyous, the best way to rid yourself of negativity is to go into the light Carol Ann. There is peace and serenity in the light. LOL I'm sure you all remember that from Poltergeist but seriously get out of the darkness and into the marvelous light. I like it here in the light, besides in the darkness you can't see my smile. :-) *ting*
****Found this lil tidbit online and had to share:
How to Deal with Negative People....
Also, negativity is a process - It is a lot healthier to admit to one's anger and negativity and be real, then to surprise it, and be a spiritual bliss ninny. If one is fed up with their life and the world, that can be a good thing. Tolle was very negative or filled with judgment and fear in his mind until he could no longer live with it, or himself this way. So to judge him for being where he was at the time is not the answer, but the relinquishment of judgment is. Think of an abandoned young cat in an alley way, it hisses at you and claws at you, because it is afraid, but you are only trying to bring it into the house for some warmth and some milk, but it is very afraid -- it's been abandoned, and had a few run in fights with other cats in the alley, and it needed to protect itself, and you come along, but it does not recognize you as a friend -- it just sees you as one more alley cat trying to hurt it -- so it's defenses are always up for survival. You don't say, "hey cat, you are just too negative, or angry. You understand where the cat is coming from which is fear, so you have "compassion" not judgment. Same with people, they had experieces with their own alley cat brawls in life to keep them alive and surviving, so that's where they are coming from. Unless you've walked in someone else's shoes don't judge. Compassion is always the best mental position to take. Difficult at times, because we always want to hold our position that they are wrong and we are right -- but the issues of who is right and who is wrong is irrelevant - it is the relinquishment of fear and guilt that is relevant, and that is a "shared" experience that can only happen between you and the cat in that moment.